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A Collection
of References from the Quran and Hadeeth about the Rights of Women guaranteed by
Islam
Spiritual Equality of Women and Men
Allah has got ready forgiveness and tremendous rewards for the Muslim men and
women; the believing men and women; the devout men and women; the truthful men
and women; the patiently suffering men and women; the humble men and women; the
almsgiving men and women; the fasting men and women, the men and women who guard
their chastity; and the men and women who are exceedingly mindful of Allah. (Al-Ahzab
33:35)
Attitudes towards women
O ye who believe! Ye are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor
should ye treat them with harshness, that ye may take away part of the dower ye
have given them,-except where they have been guilty of open lewdness; on the
contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If ye take a
dislike to them it may be that ye dislike a thing, and Allah brings about
through it a great deal of good. (An-Nisa 4:19)
Collaboration and consultation
The believing men and women, are associates and helpers of each other. They
(collaborate) to promote all that is beneficial and discourage all that is evil;
to establish prayers and give alms, and to obey Allah and his Messenger. Those
are the people whom Allah would grant mercy. Indeed Allah is Mighty and Wise.
(Al-Taubah 9:71)
Examples of Consensual Decision Making
If both spouses decide, by mutual consent and consultation, on weaning [their
baby], there is no blame on either. If you want to have your babies breastfed by
a foster mother you are not doing anything blame-worthy provided you pay to the
fostermother what you had agreed to offer, in accordance with the established
manner. Fear Allah and know that Allah is aware it what you are doing". (Al-Baqarah,
2:233)
Women's Right to Attend Mosques
Narrated Ibn Umar: The Prophet (p.b.u.h) said, "Allow women to go to the Mosques
at night." (Bukhari Volume 2, Book 13, Number 22)
Narrated Ibn Umar: One of the wives of Umar
(bin Al-Khattab) used to offer the Fajr and the 'Isha' prayer in congregation in
the Mosque. She was asked why she had come out for the prayer as she knew that
Umar disliked it, and he has great ghaira (self-respect). She replied, "What
prevents him from stopping me from this act?" The other replied, "The statement
of Allah's Apostle (p.b.u.h) : 'Do not stop Allah's women-slave from going to
Allah s Mosques' prevents him." (Bukhari Volume 2, Book 13, Number 23)
Ibn 'Umar reported: Grant permission to women
for going to the mosque in the night. His son who was called Waqid said: Then
they would make mischief. He (the narrator) said: He thumped his (son's) chest
and said: I am narrating to you the hadith of the Messenger of Allah (may peace
be upon him), and you say: No! (Sahih Muslim Book 004, Number 0890)
Ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah (may
peace be upon him) said: Do not deprive women of their share of the mosques,
when they seek permission from you. Bilal said: By Allah, we would certainly
prevent them. 'Abdullah said: I say that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be
upon him) said it and you say: We would certainly prevent them! (Sahih Muslim
Book 004, Number 0891)
Yahya related to me from Malik from Yahya ibn
Said that Atika bint Zayd ibn Amr ibn Nufayl, the wife of Umar ibn al-Khattab,
used to ask Umar ibn al-Khattab for permission to go to the mosque. He would
keep silent, so she would say, "By Allah, I will go out, unless you forbid me,"
and he would not forbid her. (Sunan Abu Dawud Book 14, Number 14.5.14)
The Common Performance of Ablutions
Narrated Ibn Umar: "It used to be that men and women would perform ablutions
together in the time of the Messenger of Allah's assembly." (Bukhari: 1: Ch. 45,
Book of Ablution)
Women's Right of Proposal
Narrated Sahl: A woman came to the Prophet, and presented herself to him (for
marriage). He said, "I am not in need of women these days." Then a man said, "O
Allah's Apostle! Marry her to me." The Prophet asked him, "What have you got?"
He said, "I have got nothing." The Prophet said, "Give her something, even an
iron ring." He said, "I have got nothing." The Prophet asked (him), "How much of
the Quran do you know (by heart)?" He said, "So much and so much." The Prophet
said, "I have married her to you for what you know of the Quran." (Bukhari
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 72)
Women's Right of Permission
Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "A matron should not be given in
marriage except after consulting her; and a virgin should not be given in
marriage except after her permission." The people asked, "O Allah's Apostle! How
can we know her permission?" He said, "Her silence (indicates her permission)."
(Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 67)
Narrated Khansa bint Khidam Al-Ansariya that
her father gave her in marriage when she was a matron and she disliked that
marriage. So she went to Allah's Apostle and he declared that marriage invalid.
(Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 69)
The Right of Women not to be Forced
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: Barira's husband was a slave called Mughith, as if I am
seeing him now, going behind Barira and weeping with his tears flowing down his
beard. The Prophet said to 'Abbas, "O 'Abbas ! are you not astonished at the
love of Mughith for Barira and the hatred of Barira for Mughith?" The Prophet
then said to Barira, "Why don't you return to him?" She said, "O Allah's
Apostle! Do you order me to do so?" He said, "No, I only intercede for him." She
said, "I am not in need of him." (Bukhari: Volume 7, Book 63, Number 206)
Asserting Women's Rights
Ibn Al-Jauzi narrated the virtues and merits of Umar bin Al-Khattab (Allah bless
him) in the following words: Umar forbade the people from paying excessive
dowries and addressed them saying: "Don't fix the dowries for women over forty
ounces. If ever that is exceeded I shall deposit the excess amount in the public
treasury". As he descended from the pulpit, a flat-nosed lady stood up from
among the women audience, and said: "It is not within your right". Umar asked:
"Why should this not be of my right?" she replied: "Because Allah has
proclaimed: 'even if you had given one of them (wives) a whole treasure for
dowry take not the least bit back. Would you take it by false claim and a
manifest sin'". (Al Nisa, 20). When he heard this, Umar said: "The woman is
right and the man (Umar) is wrong. It seems that all people have deeper insight
and wisdom than Umar". Then he returned to the pulpit and declared: "O people, I
had restricted the giving of more than four hundred dirhams in dowry. Whosoever
of you wishes to give in dowry as much as he likes and finds satisfaction in so
doing may do so". quoted in: "On
the Position and Role of Women in Islam and Islamic Society"
Seeking advice and comfort
Narrated 'Aisha (the mother of the faithful believers): ... Then Allah's Apostle
returned with the Inspiration and with his heart beating severely. Then he went
to Khadija bint Khuwailid and said, "Cover me! Cover me!" They covered him till
his fear was over and after that he told her everything that had happened and
said, "I fear that something may happen to me." Khadija replied, "Never! By
Allah, Allah will never disgrace you. You keep good relations with your kith and
kin, help the poor and the destitute, serve your guests generously and assist
the deserving calamity-afflicted ones." Khadija then accompanied him to her
cousin Waraqa bin Naufal bin Asad bin 'Abdul 'Uzza ... (Bukhari Volume 1, Book
1, Number 3)
The Characteristics of a Believing Man
Narrated AbuHurayrah: Allah's Messenger (pbuh) said: a believing man should not
hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be
pleased with another. (Muslim Book 8, Number 3469)
The Education of Women
Narrated Abu Said: A woman came to Allah's Apostle and said, "O Allah's Apostle!
Men (only) benefit by your teachings, so please devote to us from (some of) your
time, a day on which we may come to you so that you may teach us of what Allah
has taught you." Allah's Apostle said, "Gather on such-and-such a day at
such-and-such a place." They gathered and Allah's Apostle came to them and
taught them of what Allah had taught him. (Bukhari Volume 9, Book 92, Number
413)
On the Treatment of Women
Narrated Mu'awiyah al-Qushayri: I went to the Apostle of Allah (pbuh) and asked
him: "What do you say (command) about our wives?" He replied: "Give them food
what you have for yourself, and clothe them by which you clothe yourself, and do
not beat them, and do not revile them." (Sunan Abu Dawud: Book 11, Number 2139)
"The best of you is one who is best towards his family and I am best towards the
family". (At-Tirmithy). "None but a noble man treats women in an honourable
manner. And none but an ignoble treats women disgracefully". (At-Tirmithy).
A Husband must keep the Privacy of his Wife
Narrated AbuSa'id al-Khudri: Allah's Messenger (peace_be_upon_him) said: The
most wicked among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of Judgement is the
man who goes to his wife and she comes to him, and then he divulges her secret.
(Muslim Book 8, Number 3369)
A Husband's Attitude
'Umar ibn al-Khattab (RA) said that a man came to his house to complain about
his wife. On reaching the door of his house, he hears 'Umar's wife shouting at
him and reviling him. Seeing this, he was about to go back, thinking that 'Umar
himself was in the same position and, therefore, could hardly suggest any
solution for his problem. 'Umar (RA) saw the man turn back, so he called him and
enquired about the purpose of his visit. He said that he had come with a
complaint against his wife, but turned back on seeing the Caliph in the same
position. 'Umar (RA) told him that he tolerated the excesses of his wife for she
had certain rights against him. He said, "Is it not true that she prepares food
for me, washes clothes for me and suckles my children, thus saving me the
expense of employing a cook, a washerman and a nurse, though she is not legally
obliged in any way to do any of these things? Besides, I enjoy peace of mind
because of her and am kept away from indecent acts on account of her. I
therefore tolerate all her excesses on account of these benefits. It is right
that you should also adopt the same attitude." quoted in Rahman, Role of Muslim
Women page 149
The Prophet's Disapproval of Women Beaters
Patient behavior was the practice of the Prophet, even when his wife dared to
address him harshly. Once his mother-in-law- saw her daughter strike him with
her fist on his noble chest. When the enraged mother -in-law began to reproach
her daughter, the Prophet smilingly said, "Leave her alone; they do worse than
that." And once Abu Bakr, his father-in-law, was invited to settle some
misunderstanding between him and Aishah. The Prophet said to her, "Will you
speak, or shall I speak?" Aisha said, "You speak, but do not say except the
truth." Abu Bakr was so outraged that he immediately struck her severely,
forcing her to run and seek protection behind the back of the Prophet. Abu Bakr
said, "O you the enemy of herself! Does the Messenger of Allah say but the
truth?" The Prophet said, "O Abu Bakr, we did not invite you for this [harsh
dealing with Aishah], nor did we anticipate it." quoted in: Mutual Rights and
Obligations
And Allah (swt) knows best.
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